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When it comes to the goings-on behind the closed door of an adult bedroom, most couples seem to think intimacy and self-stimulation are mutually exclusive.  In other words, if a couple is intimate they are not – or should not – engage in self-stimulation, and vice versa.  Interestingly enough, intimacy and self-stimulation have more of a yin-yang relationship, in which they actually complement each other and can work together to make intimacy as a couple more enjoyable.  Learn more about how self-stimulation – and even mutual self-stimulation – can turn OK playtime into great playtime, as well as how to keep the male organ healthy and ready for the ensuing increase in action it is about to experience.

Why Intimacy Becomes Routine

Most people who have been in a long-term physical relationship have developed a sort of repertoire that they do not deviate from much when getting down and dirty.  The reason for this is simple: most adults are tired, very tired.  Between juggling kids, work, and an otherwise full schedule, it is not uncommon for a couple to use a bed more for sleeping than for anything else – even if more intimacy is desired.  When a night finally comes when both partners can muster up the energy to just do it, they want to do what works and what is going to get fast, reliable results without having to put in too much effort. Sound familiar? Hence, the boring routine is born, sure the couple may not enjoy mind-blowing pleasure each and every time, but it gets the job done.

Why Self-stimulation Works Every Time

Now, on the other side of the coin is couples, or individuals, who engage in self-love.  Whether self-stimulation is reserved for a night when intimacy just isn’t going to happen, is used as part of a relaxing bedtime routine, or is just for fun, it is about as close to a sure thing as there is out there.  The reason behind this phenomenon is that no partner can provide the exact type of stimulation the body is craving like oneself.  Even the most skillful partner is unlikely to be able to achieve the specific angle, pressure and speed that a man is able to give himself, so from that respect, sometimes self-stimulation provides a faster, easier service than intimacy does.  Think of self-stimulation as the ATM of sensuality: guaranteed results without having to deal with an actual person.

How Self-stimulation Can Improve Intimacy

Believe it or not, when intimacy and self-stimulation are able to come together, the results can be spectacular.  Individuals who self-pleasure are, obviously, very familiar with the specific sensations they enjoy, so if they can muster up the courage to express this to their partner, they can learn to experience fireworks in the bedroom.  When partners take the time to teach each other where and how to touch each other, in a slower more exploratory manner they actually learn more about how their body reacts during intimacy.  Sure, the wham, bam, thank you ma’am method may get the job done, but exploring sensations and guiding one another down a longer path to pleasure, not only makes intimacy more enjoyable, it also reconnects the couple in a more intimate way.  Sure, there may still be nights when a quickie is all that can be mustered, but on occasion, it may be worth it to put on a pot of coffee after dinner and get a little more pep in the step to help break out of the boring bedroom routine.

Staying Healthy

Whether a man is getting plenty of partner action, or more of a hands-on variety, a healthy male organ is key to a healthy response.  Over time, the male organ skin can become rough and desensitized, due to the constant friction that sensual stimulation provides.  Keep the skin healthy and sensitive to all touches by using a daily male organ health formula (most health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil).  Selecting a health cream, especially one containing Acetyl L Carnitine and Alpha Lipoic Acid, can help rejuvenate damaged male cells and improve nerve function that may have become dulled over the years.  Simply apply daily and enjoy the benefits of a healthier male organ.

Visit www.man1health.com for more information about treating common male organ health problems, including soreness, redness and loss of male organ sensation. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.